Sunday, October 30, 2011

Afraid of the Dark

With Halloween upon us, it is time for me to reveal my fears. I am afraid of noises in the middle of the night. As an adult, I avoid reading scary books or watching horror movies. And you know what really scares me? Top two fears. Being trapped in the dark and haunted houses.

When I was growing up, I don't remember not being afraid of the dark. When I was about four years old, my family lived in Pennsylvania. It was a coal mining town, Pittson, and the streets were very hilly. We lived in an apartment above a building on the main street. The main floor was a store front, and it was mentioned a few years ago that my parents intended on opening a day care center, but never did. I do remember the basement of the building. The basement was dug out, the walls were actually black coal, cold to the touch and it was very dark. I would never go down there by myself.

My mom's brothers came to visit and the grown-ups decided to play a prank on an unsuspecting uncle of mine. He was the youngest brother in the family, who was closer in age to my sister than his siblings, so I think he was around eight years old.

Somehow, the grown-ups convinced us we needed to go down in the basement. With my young uncle in the lead, we descended the stairs into the dark, chilly basement. I remember being so scared, and huddled with my young uncle and sister as we went down the stairs. When we reached the bottom of the staircase, out stepped a person, flashed a light and revealed a skeleton face.

We all screamed, and stumbled over each other to climb the staircase. I was so scared, fell, and we all tumbled over each other. I remember the pounding of my heart, and the fear I would never leave the dark basement, and I would have to stay with the skeleton.

In all fairness to my parents, to this day they attest they warned my sister and I about what was going to happen. I don't doubt that they did, but maybe my four year old brain was too young to handle the concept. Maybe this was the first time I was ever scared.

Later in life, when I was about eight years old, my dad convinced me to go in a haunted house with him. Not sure why I ever agreed to go inside since haunted houses are traditionally dark, and everyone knew I was afraid of the dark.

I remember clinging to my dad. He walked in front of me, I held tight onto his back and buried my head in his jacket. I knew I would be okay since my dad would take care of me, but I was really scared. My face stayed buried until we walked into the last room. It was dark and lightening flashed. There were skeletons hanging down from the ceiling and you had to walk though them to get to the door.

My dad kept assuring me it would be okay, and I am sure by this time he fully regretted encouraging me to go through the haunted house with him. As we worked our way across the room, the people in front of us closed the exit door. The room was dark and then the lightening flashed. I remember my dad's voice, with a hint of panic, asking aloud to anyone who would listen, "How do we get out?"

His voice became angry as he reached the wall and started searching for the door. I clung onto his jacket with my heart beating. The door eventually opened, but the damage was done. Now, not only was I afraid of the dark, but haunted houses were also added to my list of fears.

Saturday, October 29, 2011

Entwined into A Beautiful Melody

“Once upon a midnight dreary, while I pondered, weak and weary,
Over many a quaint and curious volume of forgotten lore,
While I nodded, nearly napping, suddenly there came a tapping,
As of some one gently rapping, rapping at my chamber door.
Tis some visitor," I muttered, "tapping at my chamber door —
Only this, and nothing more."
-The Raven by Edgar Allen Poe


Oh, how I love Edgar Allen Poe! I love the way he takes words, and entwines them into a beautiful melody when you read them aloud. And when you think about it, it is some pretty scary stuff!

Friday, October 28, 2011

Color Outside the Lines

"To live a creative life, we must lose our fear of being wrong.”
-Joseph Chilton Pearce

I was very fortunate to be raised by a woman who let me color outside the lines.

She raised her daughters singing and playing the guitar to us, and always made the time to read aloud. She has a beautiful range to her voice. Her artistic talents and tastes are different than my own, but she always praises and complements every thing I do.

I remember once my daughter was coloring a coloring book picture at my father-in-law's house. As he watched her, he kept pointing out that she needed to color inside the lines. Unable to bite my lip any longer, I smiled and gently told my daughter "It is okay to color outside the lines."

I learned that from my mom.

Thursday, October 27, 2011

Alliance with Patience

I continue on my journey.

I see my life as a series of paths, and I am faced with many choices. When I speak of this journey, it is not as if I am ignoring my family and friends, but it is more of a journey within myself. A journey for me to determine who I am, who I want to be and who I will be remembered as.

What I have learned, thus far, is it isn't going to be easy, and my journey would be better served by entering into an alliance with patience.

I now need to find the path where patience resides.

Wednesday, October 26, 2011

Stories to Tell

I have so many stories I want to tell, but like most writers, I think it would help if I organized my thoughts. But for someone who doesn't want to make lists, this is almost impossible!

Monday, October 24, 2011

Like, Love or In Love

Yesterday, I was so compelled to write about how much I miss my priest who is on a six month sabbatical. What made me realize how much I miss him, was going to church yesterday morning and sitting through a Mass listening to the priest filling in for him.

I listened as the replacement priest talked about his theory of “love” and “in love.” He stated that when people get married they are making a commitment to “love,” but not to be “in love.” So basically, too bad. If you are not “in love” any longer, regardless of your situation, you need to stay in the marriage because you made the commitment to “love.” No exceptions.

Wow.

I disagree, but I started thinking about “like,” “love” and “in love” and the difference between the three. I read an article with a good analogy. The article compared how a person would feel if someone they knew died.

If they “liked” the person they would be sad, and maybe cry once or twice.

If they “loved” the person, they would be devastated; the death would leave a lasting impression, impacting their life. They would cry a lot more.

If they were “in love” with someone, they would want their own life to end. I think when you are “in love” it means you can’t see yourself living without the other person by your side.

I don't think anyone explained the difference between "like," "love" and "in love" to the priest. And based on what he said, I don't think it would matter anyways.